Oscars and Emotions

Naomi Watts in The Impossible: just before the wave hits

Naomi Watts in The Impossible: just before the wave hits

I will be watching the Oscars tonight — alone, in my jammies, under a cozy blanket, with a delicious dinner. I can’t wait.

I love the movies. By that, I mean to say I love my internal experiences produced by the movies. Yes, movies are an escape. But movies are also a way to exercise emotions by proxy, by temporarily immersing ourselves in imagined situations and personalities. While it’s certainly not the same thing as first-hand experience our own emotions are a shade of approximation for what we witness on screen.

Through movies, we get to feel and remember thwarted, marital, parental, familial, lustful, and romantic love; we ride the virtual roller coasters of fear, anxiety, suspense, and uncertainty in safety; we examine and analyze the solutions our movie characters try, fail or succeed at, and wonder if they would work or fail for us; we see and experience lives and worlds that are out of our realm of experience. The movies are a gift, and the makers of movies broaden our view of, and increase our compassion for, humanity every year. That’s what I will celebrate tonight.

Here are a few movies and performances looked at through the lens of emotional impact: Continue reading

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Opened by Love

Bleeding Heart

Bleeding Heart

It’s funny how you can read a book or watch a movie where you know the outcome and still find yourself wondering what will happen. Or hoping against hope that there will be a different ending. That’s the definition of a good story.

A few days ago I wrote about quitting and Andre Agassi’s engrossing autobiography “Open.” Up to the point I had read, he had a hate-hate relationship to tennis and was engaged in epic battles against not just his opponents, but himself. He dreamed of quitting, but he didn’t think he could. I wanted him to quit, even though I knew he not only didn’t quit but went on to become one of the oldest players and greatest winners in tennis history. Continue reading

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Choose the Game to Win the Game

Sensory confusion room

Sensory confusion room at the 2011 Venice Biennale

It’s 2009 and I’m lying on a chiropractic table at a Transformational Gate in Westminster, Colorado. “You think you lead with Perception,” my teacher Donny Epstein whispers in my ear, “but you really lead with Structure.” He lingers a moment to let that sink in, and then he walks away.

Whoa! I say, still face down.

First of all, what does that even mean? I hadn’t yet been exposed to Donny’s new Triad of Change and, whatever he was talking about, I took instant umbrage to his diagnosis. “Yes, of course I think I ‘lead’ with Perception! I’m a very perceptive person. So there!” But I just think this in my head. I do not say it out loud. Continue reading

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The Technology of Your Body and Mind

TriangleDo you ever feel like you’re beating your head against a wall? That you know you need to make a change or get something done, but you just can’t get traction or results? What if a simple triangle could change all that and make all your decisions effortless?

I’m about to let you in on a big secret: the Triad of Change. Learn how to use it, and your life becomes, if not effort-less, much less effort-full. It has been one of the most effective catalysts and easiest-to-use tools in my life. Continue reading

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Quitting the Game

Agassi-OpenAmericans hate quitters. Never quit. Don’t give up. Stay the course. Persevere. Try hard, and then try harder. But what if it’s the wrong course? What if you’re hitting and hitting, and then hitting even harder, and you’re in the wrong game?

I’m reading Andre Agassi’s memoir, “Open: An Autobiography.” It’s moment has passed, I know. It was published in 2009, and the only new revelation — besides the somewhat shocking assertion that he hated tennis, that he always hated tennis — was that he’d used crystal meth. It was all the press cared about. Juicy tidbits that masqueraded as “news” to report on. But it was also lauded for being well-written. I’d heard him interviewed, and I sensed there was something there for me just now. Continue reading

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The Life Beside Technology

The Siren Song of the Piano

The Siren Song of the Piano

In Monday’s 6 Ways to Tame the Tech Shrew, we explored the dark side of technology: the time we spend — or, worse, squander — mindlessly flitting from one screen to another, one device to another, one moment to another. The topic touched a nerve with readers, so I thought it deserved some follow-through.

In one of the comments, The Daily Blague‘s RJ Keefe threw down this gauntlet:

“How about making a list of things that you like to do that don’t involve a phone or a computer, and another list of non-computer activities that a computer can enhance. (Locate the center of your life away from the Internet.)”

Let’s try it! Here’s mine: Continue reading

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10 Portraits of Love

Joyful Love

Joyful Love

Today is Valentine’s Day. Valentine’s Day is about love. Lots of people are writing and posting about love, and lots of people have written about love in books and poems. But, I think love is something to feel and to experience.

Above and below are pictures of myself embodying different kinds of love that I’ve experienced. Before taking each shot in Photo Booth this morning, I spent several seconds conjuring up the feeling of that kind of love. See if any of them evoke those, or different, feelings for you. Notice the different kinds of love are you experiencing today.

Oh, and Happy Valentine’s Day. Love any and every way you can! Continue reading

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